Can you be too #bridechilla?
No one wants to be a bridezilla, the fear of wedding vendors throughout the world! However, we believe that you can take being a laid-back bride a little too far. There are a few things that you might let slide that you really shouldn’t!
First, whenever a vendor asks you how you want something, be specific. Tell them what your colors are, what your vision is, what time they need to arrive at the venue, and all the other details. Give them as many details as you have (that are relevant, of course), and also tell them what you don’t want. Try to avoid saying, “It’s up to you!” Even if you really don’t know what you want, you want all of the different elements of your wedding to go well together, and you don’t want to get to your wedding only to realize that you forgot an important part of your decor or schedule.
Another issue is your bridesmaids’ dresses! We love the current trend of letting your bridesmaids choose their dresses, but it can get really sloppy really fast if you aren’t firm on colors and tones. Don’t make my mistake and give a list of five colors that you’re okay with… all but one of my bridesmaids happened to pick the same color, and the first bridesmaid (who actually purchased her dress first) had to get a new dress because the two colors weren’t balanced and she would have stuck out like a thumb. You can let your bridesmaids pick out their own dresses, but assign them each a color!
And please; don’t compromise on timing! Hopefully you have a wedding coordinator who will keep things on schedule, but you need to have a very detailed schedule for your wedding day. Usually you’ll hammer this out with your photographer, but the sooner you get that done the better so that your vendors know your timeline. Which means you also have to give your vendors your timeline. You don’t want you OR your guests to wait forever for the next part of the wedding to actually happen! And unless you have a miracle venue that lets you stay as long as you need to, things need to happen when they’re supposed to so your tear-down crew can get to work and you don’t get charged for going over your time.
We saved one of the most important things for last! Read closely: people are going to ask how they can help with your wedding. Tell them how. You should probably make a list of all the things that are going to have to happen the day of your wedding, especially if you’re setting up the day of. Know what’s on your list so that you can tell people when they ask! That way, when your friend from high school says, “Let me know if you need any help with your wedding,” you can respond, “I actually need someone to put up my direction signs/set out the desserts/help lay out centerpieces.” Trust us—unless you’re paying for labor from your venue or rental company to do these things, you’re going to need help.
What else have you been firm on during your wedding planning? Is there anything you absolutely won’t budge on? Tell us in the comments!